By Gretchen Rubin | LinkedIn
I love dividing people into categories. Under-buyers and over-buyers. Eeyores and Tiggers. Abstainers and Moderators. Upholders, Questioners, Rebels, and Obligers(That last system of classification is the one of which I'm most proud. It's really good, if I do say so myself.)
Another system of classification is “Finishers and Openers.”
Do you get more satisfaction from:
- throwing away a container or bottle after using the very last drop, or
- opening a fresh new container
Are you more likely to:
- have several unfinished projects going at one time, or
- make sure that you've done a thorough job on your priority project before starting something new
I’m a Finisher; my husband is an Opener. I love to extract the last tiny bit out of a tube of toothpaste, and he loves opening the new tube. True, I do love that first squeeze, and the first dip into a new jar of peanut butter, but I also enjoy using the very last bit of the old stuff. I feel a real sense of accomplishment when I use the last egg in a carton (as I did this morning).
Perhaps this explains the weird satisfaction I feel when something breaks or is worn out. Why do I like to see the worn spots on our sofa? Why do I like getting a hole in a pair of socks? Perhaps it’s my Finisher nature, delighting in the finish.
I wonder if this is related to the distinction between Simplicity Lovers and Abundance Lovers.
I have one blog that I maintain regularly, and every day when I post, I feel the satisfaction of finishing for the day; an Opener acquaintance has bought more than 300 URLs, maintains twelve sites, and he’s always considering launching a new site. That suits his desire for opening.
Do these categories ring true for you? Are you a Finisher or an Opener?
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Gretchen Rubin is the author of the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, The Happiness Project and Happier at Home. She writes about happiness and habit-formation (the subject of her next book) at gretchenrubin.com. Follow her here by clicking the yellow FOLLOW button, on Twitter, @gretchenrubin, on Facebook, facebook.com/GretchenRubin.